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Mailbag and Confessions Around the Web

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What an amazing week!   I spent a few days down in Atlanta working on the book.  It was awesome.  I'll have a HUGE announcement about it next week.  A huge, scary announcement.  That's it on the book for now.  But the draft is coming along.

The blog will also be refreshed.  I'm definitely going to keep it simple.  But I'll be using a new theme that will allow me to interact with you much better than I can now.  It will also be slightly prettier, which is obviously not very difficult to accomplish….

Before I get into the mailbag I want to quickly honor and thank the sites around the web that have sent readers over here.

Some of these were direct posts referring to this site and others were through their brilliant and attractive readers who interacted with me through comments!

Here they are.  Confessions Around the Web:

Funny About Money

Budgeting in the Fun Stuff

Jennifer Kaufman (also tweeted – thanks!)

Wealth Lion

Budgets Are Sexy (also spread the good word through twitter)

Simple Mom

Another special thanks to those who tweeted about the site:  

Daniel Jones

Mike Loomis

Your Daily Finance

Tyrone Ioane

David Kozlowski

Stephen WG

Holly Douglas

You all rock!    Thank you.

The best compliment really is a referral.  So let me know if you find (or refer to) this site around the web, so I can properly thank you!

OK.  Here are the three most frequently asked questions from the past week.  Be sure to reach out through the feedback form if you have a question.  I respond to them all and will put the most frequently asked ones up in the next mailbag, too.  Here's the last mailbag, in case you missed it.

How is becoming a better husband going?

It's going well.  But it's tough.  I am getting great tips, tricks and encouragement from all over the place, which is helping a lot.  Just check out the comments on my posts!  The people who come here are really awesome and genuinely want to help.  Whether it's through sharing what worked for them in similar situations or just a quick “we got your back,” it's really awesome and helps a ton.  That makes it a lot easier!

What's been the toughest part?

Fighting my mind.  I've spent years trying to be fair or avoiding commitment.  That's hard to change overnight.  Getting up is simple.  Still tough to do, but a simple concept.  The mental part of it is a grind.

Do you ever want to give up?

Nah.  What's the alternative?  I've had moments where I've wanted to take a nap or go for a walk.  I've had moments where I think or say something stupid.  I've been tired.  And I've been lazy at times.  But there are fewer and fewer of those moments, which is awesome. Giving up is not an option.  The alternative is way worse than the hard work.  In other words, it's way more “worth it” than it is “hard.”

Awesome!  There you have it.  Be sure to stop by and say hello!  Leave a comment.  Use the feedback form.  Or shoot me an e-mail at nick (at) aterriblehusband (dot) com.  I read and reply to them all.  You can also find me on twitter at a bad husband.  That's probably the easiest way to interact on a “real time” basis.  But I also reply to all comments here, too.  And bloggers love comments almost as much as they love twitter followers…. maybe more.  So don't be shy!

 

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Mailbag!

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It's been a strange week.  But a great one.

The site went “live” with a few posts.

I got a few things off my chest.

And for that I'm very grateful.

It helps a lot knowing that you're listening.

And some of you even reached out through the commenting system, the “feedback” page or outside of the blog to say hello, ask questions or encourage me.

That was awesome, too.

Thank you.

So instead of my normal two posts per week while I'm writing the book, I decided to post an extra one this week to answer some of those questions.  I'll continue to post twice per week as I finish up the book, but will post more mailbags on top of that if I get enough questions, comments or testimonials.

So go here and send them my way!

Does your wife know about this?

Yes.  She knows both that I am writing about it here and in the book.  (Oh, and my mother-in-law knows too.  My wife told her.  Nothing like your wife telling her mother how you're writing a book called Confessions of a Terrible Husband…. ha!)

What does she think?

She thinks I'm a little odd, but appreciates that I'm trying (her words – we all know here that I don't “try” well…).  She cuts me a lot of slack and is used to me being a little quirky.  My mother-in-law still loves me, too.  I got a good one.

What possessed you to “go public” with this?

Mostly to stay accountable.  This is pretty tough.  I'm a pretty lazy guy.  For some reason I have no problem going to the gym, but can't gather the energy to fold anything but towels when it comes to laundry….

Why not just keep it to yourself or have a friend keep you accountable?

Because I had a feeling that I wasn't the only one who says and does stupid little things.  So I wanted to share my story with as many people as possible.  I would love to know that something I wrote helped make one day better for one couple.  That would be pretty awesome.

When is the book coming out?

In the fall.  I'll keep the book page updated, but the book cover and site design will be done by mid-September.  The book will have been written by then and then the plan will be to get the book into as many hands as possible.  You can also subscribe to the mailing list to be among the first to know the updates.  Need a stocking stuffer?  Keep me in mind.  I have some other fun things planned.

Is the book going to be just like the blog?

Sort of.  The writing style will be similar.  It's just how I write.  You'll get the same personality.  But you'll get more confessions and some more meat on the bones.  It's still a work in progress.  I'll be seeking feedback along the way from people who know as much about writing and publishing a book as I know about being a crappy husband…. Oh, and – by design – you will able to be read the book in the same time it takes to watch a professional baseball game.  So if you can watch a baseball game, you can read the book…. no excuses.  ðŸ™‚

OK.  that's it for now.  I don't like when posts creep over 600 words.  I'm pretty sure it's because that's when I start to drift… 

Don't forget to send feedback, questions and success stories here, so I can have more of these!