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It’s been a strange week.  But a great one.

The site went “live” with a few posts.

I got a few things off my chest.

And for that I’m very grateful.

It helps a lot knowing that you’re listening.

And some of you even reached out through the commenting system, the “feedback” page or outside of the blog to say hello, ask questions or encourage me.

That was awesome, too.

Thank you.

So instead of my normal two posts per week while I’m writing the book, I decided to post an extra one this week to answer some of those questions.  I’ll continue to post twice per week as I finish up the book, but will post more mailbags on top of that if I get enough questions, comments or testimonials.

So go here and send them my way!

Does your wife know about this?

Yes.  She knows both that I am writing about it here and in the book.  (Oh, and my mother-in-law knows too.  My wife told her.  Nothing like your wife telling her mother how you’re writing a book called Confessions of a Terrible Husband…. ha!)

What does she think?

She thinks I’m a little odd, but appreciates that I’m trying (her words – we all know here that I don’t “try” well…).  She cuts me a lot of slack and is used to me being a little quirky.  My mother-in-law still loves me, too.  I got a good one.

What possessed you to “go public” with this?

Mostly to stay accountable.  This is pretty tough.  I’m a pretty lazy guy.  For some reason I have no problem going to the gym, but can’t gather the energy to fold anything but towels when it comes to laundry….

Why not just keep it to yourself or have a friend keep you accountable?

Because I had a feeling that I wasn’t the only one who says and does stupid little things.  So I wanted to share my story with as many people as possible.  I would love to know that something I wrote helped make one day better for one couple.  That would be pretty awesome.

When is the book coming out?

In the fall.  I’ll keep the book page updated, but the book cover and site design will be done by mid-September.  The book will have been written by then and then the plan will be to get the book into as many hands as possible.  You can also subscribe to the mailing list to be among the first to know the updates.  Need a stocking stuffer?  Keep me in mind.  I have some other fun things planned.

Is the book going to be just like the blog?

Sort of.  The writing style will be similar.  It’s just how I write.  You’ll get the same personality.  But you’ll get more confessions and some more meat on the bones.  It’s still a work in progress.  I’ll be seeking feedback along the way from people who know as much about writing and publishing a book as I know about being a crappy husband…. Oh, and – by design – you will able to be read the book in the same time it takes to watch a professional baseball game.  So if you can watch a baseball game, you can read the book…. no excuses.  :)

OK.  that’s it for now.  I don’t like when posts creep over 600 words.  I’m pretty sure it’s because that’s when I start to drift… 

Don’t forget to send feedback, questions and success stories here, so I can have more of these!

Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic.

  • Rachel Rowell

    Haha! I know a few husbands (except my own) that I’d love to give your book to as a Christmas gift! ;) Love the blog by the way! Neat content, easy to get around & comment, and of course…great content. Best of luck in the book writing endeavors! It’ll be good.

    • http://www.aterriblehusband.com/ ATerribleHusband

      Awesome! And thanks, Rachel! :)

  • LaJoie Ward

    Love it! The mailbag is an awesome idea! I’ve tried similar things before, but I tend to want to answer them too completely, so I go off on some soul-searching tangent and never really come to an answer . . .
    Yeah. Needless to say, I’ve never actually ANSWERED a question I received. But I love the way you did this, and I must say I’m excited to see the book. :D

    • http://www.aterriblehusband.com/ ATerribleHusband

      Thanks LaJoie! I loved writing this post, so I really hope to get more and more questions/comments/etc.. I’ve gotten a couple more so far, so I’ll probably do another soon. Keeping the answers short was key for me. I’d get bored and lose focus writing 500 words on 5 questions! This is apparently one place where a short attention span is helpful…. :)

  • Your Daily Finance

    Just found the site and I think its a great idea for a blog and book. Cant wait for the book. As a husband I have made some horrible decisions. The key is learning and not making the same terrible decisions over. My goal this year and going forward was to be an outstanding husband/father. Its a work in progress and we all make mistakes. At least you are working on or fixed the problems you had.

    • http://www.aterriblehusband.com/ ATerribleHusband

      Thanks! Awesome goal. It certainly is a work in progress. Please share what works and doesn’t here, too. It’s certainly a group effort and I’m still learning and could use all the help I can get!

  • Lilbouf

    About the lazy/towel folding thing. (And maybe you’ve tried this who knows). We split the chores based on what we like to do. Fortunately for us, this is conveniently split because we have opposites, but still a “fair” way to go about it. He likes to load the dishwasher, I’d rather wipe the counters. He cleans the rugs, I clean the bathroom. That way you’re both helping but doing what you’re good at. He does a lot of yard work, I make sure the house is presentable when we have guests. We may not always do the same amount of work on the same day (same week even) but I think over time it evens out and neither one of us feels like we got the short end of the stick.

    • http://www.aterriblehusband.com/about/ ATerribleHusband

      Thanks Lilbouf! We’re moving into a house in the near future and will definitely have to split some things up.

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