Remember the last time you had that delicious meal from your favorite restaurant?
I bet you could describe the taste in just one word if you were asked to.
(Even if it was 10 years ago)
And could easily describe it into detail if needed; from the smell and touch, to the taste it left in your mouth.
But have you ever wondered how people described your family?
What thoughts come to your mind?
A happy, peaceful, chaotic, or the family that can not be described.
Chances are you probably cannot describe your family in one word.
And is that okay for you?
How would you describe your family in one word?
Yes, just one word!
Anything more than that can mean something broad but let the description of your family be just one word. As in, delicious for your favorite meal.
This unique word that describes your family is what we call a family theme.
Its very descriptive, and presents a unique way for your family to be identified, and raved about.
Choosing a theme for your family.
You might be asking, “what is your family theme?”
Ours is a peaceful family.
We decided on this theme due to the lifestyle we want to live, the marriage we want to build, and the environment we want to raise our kids in.
The above 3 factors have played a big role in our marriage, family, and home.
For example, Ashley and I had different marriage expectations before we got married. But because we were able to choose a family theme we both agreed on, it made it easier for us to compromise on our marriage expectations.
And as result, whenever we have any issues, we simply refer to our family theme to put ourselves in check.
We also ask each other whether the manner in which we talk to each other, and the decisions we make will help us continue to have a peaceful family.
3 simple questions to help you choose a theme for your family.
1. What do you want people to think of when they hear about your family?
2. How do you want your family to be described in one word?
3. How do other people describe your family in one word?
You and your spouse( if married) should agree or compromise on one theme for your family. It will be certainly provide another way to grow and stay together as a family.
If you need help or guidance, as always, feel free to ask in the comments section.
Is your family theme SMART?
Before you decide on what your family theme should be, think about the pros and cons your family theme will have on you, your spouse, your marriage, your family, and society.
If it has any negative effects, kindly disregard it, and choose a theme that is positive.
Your family theme should meet the goal setting criteria based on the S.M.A.R.T. principle.
It should be SPECIFIC, MEASURABLE, ATTAINABLE, REALISTIC, and TIME BOUND.
Your family theme must be specific (simple), measurable (how will describe its results or progress be measured), attainable (can it be done, is it actionable,), realistic (real not vague or something impossible like a perfect family, no one is perfect), and time bound (when should the theme be seen by others, or reflect your family actions, image etc.)
Hence, by ….. day, month, or year, you and your spouse need to assess your family theme to see if you followed through all your action steps and where you went wrong in either applying or choosing your theme.
Having a family theme will inspire you to become a better person.
It would also be the cornerstone upon which your family is built, nurtured, and described.
Our family theme has been the barometer we use in making choices for our family, and enhanced our marriage and family in ways we never imagined.
Spend some time this weekend with your spouse and/or family, and a choose a theme that resonates with your marriage and family.
You will be proud you did.
Do you have a theme for your family? What about your marriage?
If not, what are you waiting for? If yes, share it with us below.