Be sure to check out her website and podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin.
I firmly believe that Gretchen's book can have a similar impact on relationships to The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman because it not only helps you understand yourself, but it also provides insight into the mind of your spouse.
The book emphasizes that there are several ways to make or break habits and not all of them will work for you all the time based on your personal tendencies. Gretchen introduces the four tendencies that each of us have, which she calls the “Four Tendencies” and which describe how a person responds to expectations.
We talk about those Four Tendencies (Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel) and how understanding your Tendency and the Tendency of your spouse can be powerful in connecting with your spouse, breaking bad habits that hurt your marriage, and cultivating great ones.
If you want to take a quiz to determine your Tendency you can do that right here. Then listen to the podcast to talk about how to start improving your relationship with that in mind.
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